You can’t force someone to understand, and you can’t change someone who doesn’t want to change.
But here’s what you can do…
- When some say that LGBTQ people see what they want to see in the Bible – love and acceptance – then you can remember that people uncomfortable with homosexuality see what they want to see in the Bible – homophobia.
- It can be helpful to know that millions of good Christians throughout the United States and all over the world have studied the Bible and thought and prayed and have determined that it’s about love and is not anti-gay.
- It can be helpful to remember that many Christians think it’s a sin NOT to use their brains and question while reading the Bible.
- Many Christians also believe that worshipping the words of the Bible as absolute and unquestionable is another way of worshipping the golden calf, just as the Bible says not to do.
- When people say to love the sinner, but hate the sin, you can know that love is not a sin. But judging others is:
“Therefore you have no excuse, everyone of you who passes judgment, for in that which you judge another, you condemn yourself; for you who judge practice the same things.” Romans 2:1
- Episcopal minister John Shelby Spong, who is straight, has a different approach to people who don’t understand:
“I will no longer debate the issue of homosexuality in the church with anyone. I will no longer engage the biblical ignorance that emanates from so many right-wing Christians about how the Bible condemns homosexuality, as if that point of view still has any credibility.” From “A Manifesto! The Time Has Come!, October 15, 2009.
- The Bible might be helpful:
“But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” Matthew 5:44
“I will deal with all your oppressors at that time. And I will save the lame and gather the outcast and I will change their shame into praise and renown in all the earth. At that time I will bring you home at that time when I gather you; I will make you reknowned and praised among all the peoples of the earth, when I restore your fortunes before your eyes, says the Lord.” Zephaniah, 3:19-20
Most importantly, you can always…
- Know that you’re loved.
- Love them back.
- Love yourself.